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Hello! Welcome to another edition of the ABC of Mental Health, your partner in the journey to better mental health — one newsletter at a time. This week’s theme is Moving beyond - "Are you okay?" in relationships. We bring it to your inbox this Thursday to make your Thursday a little therapeutic!
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Brief Article: Tips to support someone you love who has mental illness
Here is a comprehensive guide that highlights practical tips to providing emotional support – that includes fostering open communication, encouraging professional help if needed, and creating a supportive environment, while also taking care of yourself. Many of us may want to help but don’t know how, so here’s the how from Team TST :)
Two quotes on Being a Good Friend and the Meaning of Friendship:
Octavia Butler, American science-fiction writer, spoke about timing in friendships:
"Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it's all over."
Oprah Winfrey, renowned American talk show host, television producer, actress, author, and philanthropist, speaks about the kind of friend we need:
"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."
Three TherapyShorts from TST
Building a Reliable and Non-Judgmental Space: Creating a safe space and being a consistent presence are crucial in fostering supportive friendships. Reassure your friends that they can share their feelings without fear of judgment, using affirmations like, "I'm here for you, no matter what," and "It's okay to feel that way." Regularly check in with them, even if it's just a quick message or call, to demonstrate that your support is dependable and genuine. Encourage openness by actively listening and emphasizing that all emotions are valid, fostering a judgment-free environment.
Understanding Your Own Limits: Establishing boundaries and mutual support in friendships is essential for maintaining a healthy balance. Clearly communicate your own limits by saying things like, "I need some time to recharge, but I'm here if you need to talk later," ensuring you respect your needs and prevent burnout. This approach normalises self-care and seeking help, whether through personal time or professional support like therapy. Emphasise mutual support by sharing your own experiences and feelings. This ensures that the friendship is a two-way street, nurturing both individuals equally.
Respecting Autonomy: Always ask before giving advice or stepping in, with phrases like "Would it help if I shared my thoughts?" or "Would you like me to do anything specific?" Respect their choices, even if they differ from what you would choose.
A QUESTION?
When a friend is going through a tough time, how do you usually offer your support?
Listening to them and offering emotional support
Helping them find professional help
Providing practical assistance or solutions
Distracting them with fun activities
LAST WEEK’S RESPONSE
It’s interesting to see how our priorities for self-care changes. Physical Health starts strong, takes a dip in young adulthood and again becomes a priority with age. Focus on mental health is reducing as people grow older. What do you think? We always want to hear from you :)
Love and light,
The Social Therapist
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