The Productivity Trap: Why Doing Less Can Make You More Successful

Hello! Welcome to another edition of ABC of Mental Health, your partner in the journey to better well-being.

This week, we unpack the surprising power of doing less—and why it might be the key to unlocking more success with less stress. In a culture obsessed with hustle, the idea of slowing down can feel counterintuitive—lazy, even. But constantly chasing productivity can lead to burnout, disconnection, and reduced creativity. Doing less doesn’t mean you’re falling behind; it often means you’re becoming more intentional, focused, and ultimately more successful. 

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Use the Spoon Theory as an Energy Budget—and Track It

1. Set Your Spoon Bank
   Start each day by estimating your total energy (or "spoons"). On average, you might have 10–15 spoons. Adjust based on how rested or depleted you feel when you wake up.

2. Assign Spoon Costs to Tasks

   Each activity uses spoons. For example, replying to emails might cost 1, while a difficult meeting might cost 3. Get familiar with what drains you the most.

3. Track and Observe
   Keep a simple tracker—on paper, a note app, or planner—to monitor your spoon usage throughout the day. This builds awareness and helps prevent burnout.

4. Use the 3‑to‑1 Rule for Energy Pacing
   Balance your schedule by pairing three draining tasks with one restorative one. A short walk, a mindful breath, or a quiet moment counts as replenishment.

5. Build in Flexibility and Self‑Compassion
   Some days you'll wake up with fewer spoons—don’t push through. Cancel, postpone, or delegate when you can. Self-compassion is a key part of energy management.

Once you're out, you're out—and behaving at your least optimal is not productivity, it’s depletion.

Two Quotes on Emotional Regulation & Strength:

Socrates, ancient philosopher, talks about how being busy doesn't always mean being fulfilled—or productive:

“Beware the barrenness of a busy life.”

Martin Luther King Jr., American civil rights activist, talks about how slowing down to focus on one intentional step at a time can be more effective than rushing up the wrong staircase:

“You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”

Three TherapyShorts from TST

1. The Rest-Guilt Cycle
   You take a break. You feel guilty. You overcompensate by working more. This cycle fuels burnout. Rest is not a reward—it’s a requirement. Break the loop by redefining your value. You are not your productivity. Give yourself permission to pause without shame. Start small: 10 minutes of guilt-free nothingness can reset your entire day.

2. The Myth of Multitasking

   Multitasking feels productive but often fragments focus and increases stress. Our brains are wired for single-tasking. Try the “one thing at a time” rule for a day. Make a checklist of the work to be done and start with the most simple tasks. Notice how your anxiety decreases and your presence increases. Productivity is not speed—it’s impact.
   

3. Breaking the Cycle: Productivity ≠ Self-Worth
   It’s time to stop equating your value with how much you get done. Not every day has to be a masterpiece. Sometimes, simply resisting the urge to binge an entire family-sized bag of chips is a victory—and that’s perfectly okay. Schedule downtime (treat “doing nothing” as non-negotiable time), see rest as productive (like machines, we need to recharge), laugh at yourself (if you lose hours to cat videos, that’s joy, not failure) and avoid comparison (everyone’s journey is different—embrace yours).

A QUICK QUESTION…

What do you typically sacrifice first when life gets busy? Vote here!

Last week, we asked you what your first reaction is, when love feels calm and steady, and the responses were… (drumroll please)…

With care and compassion,

The Social Therapist

P.S. Productivity doesn’t look the same for everyone!