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Hello! Welcome to another edition of the ABC of Mental Health, your partner in the journey to better mental health — one newsletter at a time. This week’s theme is boundaries. We bring it to your inbox this Thursday to make your Thursday a little therapeutic!
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Quick Boundary Check: Know yourself better!
This week we invite you to engage in a brief activity with us that helps you understand boundaries and increase your awareness about your boundaries. Think about the following prompts concerning each type of boundary highlighted below: What situations or interactions make you feel energised, comfortable, respected, and fulfilled? Are there certain topics or situations that make you feel vulnerable or you prefer to not discuss? Are there moments where you feel your needs or values are being overlooked? What would enhance your comfort and authenticity?
SOURCE: MINDJOURNAL
Two quotes on Boundaries and Self-Compassion:
Brené Brown, a renowned research professor and author, emphasises the importance of setting boundaries as an act of self-love:
"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others."
Dr. Kristin Neff, a leading expert on self-compassion and associate professor of educational psychology, highlights the role of boundaries:
"Boundaries are a part of self-compassion. They are the key to loving both ourselves and others in a healthy way."
Three TherapyShorts from TST (on boundaries)
Self-awareness: Improving boundaries involves understanding your own needs and prioritizing self-care. Recognize when you're feeling overwhelmed or stretched thin, and take steps to protect your time and energy. Schedule regular self-care activities, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies, to recharge and maintain healthy boundaries. For instance, if you notice feeling drained after spending time with certain individuals, set boundaries around how often you engage with them and prioritize spending time with those who uplift and support you.
Clear communication: Enhancing boundaries begins with clear and assertive communication. Clearly express your needs, limits, and expectations to others. For instance, if you need uninterrupted work time, communicate this to colleagues or family members and set specific boundaries around your availability. Practice saying no when necessary and assertively communicating your boundaries, such as declining additional work tasks when your plate is already full.
Consistent reinforcement: Consistently enforcing boundaries reinforces their importance and ensures they are respected. Follow through on consequences when boundaries are crossed, demonstrating that your boundaries are non-negotiable. For example, if a friend repeatedly cancels plans last minute, enforce a boundary by expressing how it affects you and considering whether to continue making plans with them.
Love and light,
The Social Therapist
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