When Fun Feels Forced: Social Burnout in Summer

Hey there! Summer is supposed to feel light, free, and full of joy—but for many, it brings pressure to show up, keep smiling, and stay “fun.” When rest feels wrong and saying no feels selfish, burnout quietly creeps in behind beach days and brunches. This issue of The ABC of Mental Health is a gentle nudge to honor your energy, even in the sunshine. You’re allowed to slow down.

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One relevant recommendation:

Spoon Theory in Summer: A Quick Take

The Spoon Theory is a metaphor for limited energy—imagine starting your day with a handful of spoons. Each activity costs a spoon. When you're low on spoons, even “fun” things feel depleting.

In summer, social plans stack up—pool parties, weddings, trips, reunions. The world says “make memories!”, but your spoons say “please rest.” You’re not lazy or antisocial—you’re just budgeting your energy wisely.

Two Quotes on Protecting Summer Energy:

Yung Pueblo an author and speaker, on summertime sadness:

“Summer isn't always bright. Sometimes it's just heat, noise, and pretending you're okay.” 

Paulo Coelho, an author, on protecting energy:

“Every time you say ‘yes’ to something you don’t want, you say ‘no’ to yourself.”

Three TherapyShorts from TST

1. On Saying No to That Plan (Again)

   It’s okay to cancel. Even if it’s the third time. Even if they might think you’re flaky. Boundaries aren’t about being liked—they’re about being honest with what you have capacity for. If your body dreads the plan, your mind is overwhelmed, and your heart isn’t in it—that’s reason enough. You don’t owe performance. You owe yourself rest.

2. When You’re the “Fun One” Who’s Tired

   When your role is the planner, the cheerleader, the spontaneous one—it’s hard to say, “I’m not okay.” But even the “fun friend” is allowed to have low-battery days. Being the light doesn’t mean you don’t deserve time in the dark. Let someone else plan. Let silence speak. Let soft moments hold you, too.

3. Loneliness in a Crowded Room

   Sometimes you’re surrounded by friends and still feel completely disconnected. That’s not ungratefulness—it’s data. Social connection isn’t about numbers or noise, but feeling seen. When the group feels too big or too bright, step back. It’s not a failure to need quiet company. It’s wisdom.

A QUICK QUESTION…

What kind of rest do you crave the most right now? Vote here!

Last week, we asked about which thoughts shame sneakily plants in your mind the most, and the responses were… (drumroll please)…

With care and compassion,

The Social Therapist

P.S. BRB, crying…